self-construct (self • kon • strukt'), v.i. to take responsibility for engendering your unique gifts by completing the job left unfinished by your parents.

It's Not Your Fault, Really: No, Seriously

When I was a young girl attempting to play basketball, I would always dribble backing up so that I could keep my body between my opponents and the ball. I was sure that if I turned around and put the ball out in front of me, someone would steal it and I would look...

Start Here: Monsters Under the Bed

A sound mind is, in actuality, a well-run committee. Freud notwithstanding, a healthy psyche is made up of the many aspects of our personality, each arguing reasonably yet passionately from its particular point of view.

To Err Really Is Human: What to Make of Mistakes

At first glance, the success of the television show House might seem odd, the adorable Hugh Laurie aside. The formula it uses is a bleak one – a surly fellow and his team make half a dozen grave mistakes with every patient.

My Bad: A Complete Apology

In a very real sense, an apology is a business transaction. When we make a mistake that affects someone else, we incur an interpersonal debt. If we’re wise, we acknowledge both the debt and the need to make amends.

Assertiveness: Speaking Up While Staying Connected
Finding Good Teachers: The Existential Whiz Kids
From This Point On: Now It Will Be Your Fault
Effective Practice: The 51% Solution

Now that I'm an adult, how do I go about fixing the lack of parenting I received early in life?

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